Andrew Hardman, 56, pictured together with his spouse Sharon, 59
That is the primary image of a married freemason who had an affair with a younger occasions planner who later gassed herself to dying after she was left heartbroken by their break up.
Emily Henthorn, 25, from Leigh, Higher Manchester, had harboured hopes of transferring right into a home with Andrew Hardman, 56, and settling down with him after they started a bootleg romance when serving to plan weddings and christenings at a masonic corridor.
She met Mr Hardman in October 2018 and it’s thought the pair started an affair in January. Through the relationship they started house-hunting collectively and noticed a number of properties.
Nevertheless, when Mr Hardman confessed to his spouse Sharon, 59, about having a mistress, the couple agreed to save lots of their marriage and he ended his five-month affair with Miss Henthorn.
Throughout a subsequent dialog, a devastated Miss Henthorn informed Mr Hardman: ‘If I can not dwell with you, I can not dwell with out you’ and even requested if she and his spouse might ‘share him.’
Simply days afterward Could 7 Miss Henthorn was discovered useless in mattress by her father after she gassed herself.
Emily Henthorn (pictured in a marriage costume shortly earlier than her dying in Could this 12 months) had harboured hopes of transferring right into a home with Mr Hardman and settling down with him
Inquiries revealed she had watched a video of methods to take her personal life and had left a number of suicide notes for her household.
The listening to was informed Miss Henthorn described as having an ‘outgoing, enticing, vivacious character’ had studied maths at Manchester College.
However she dropped out and labored within the compliance division for Bolton Council in addition to holding a part-time job as occasions co-ordinator at Leigh Masonic Corridor.
Mr Hardman informed the inquest in Bolton: ‘At first we had been nothing greater than acquaintances or buddies however a short while later friendship become a relationship and that relationship carried on for about 5 months.
‘There had been an intention to dwell collectively and on April 27 I informed my spouse concerning the relationship. However following a dialogue together with her we determined to resurrect our relationship and I ended the connection with Emily.
‘I noticed when she was working on the corridor however she mentioned phrases to the impact of: “If I can not dwell with you I can not dwell with out you”.
When Mr Hardman confessed to his spouse Sharon (pictured collectively) about having a mistress, the couple agreed to save lots of their marriage and he ended his five-month affair
‘I attempted to calm her by saying: “You did not wish to do something foolish” and persuaded her she had a life to dwell. However once I spoke to her on Saturday Could 2, by telephone she mentioned: “With out you my life just isn’t value dwelling” and repeated it.
Miss Henthorn (pictured) informed Mr Hardman: ‘If I can not dwell with you, I can not dwell with out you’
‘She appeared very calm however I used to be involved about her and I rang her dad to say I used to be involved.
‘I additionally rang psychological well being companies and the police and phoned Samaritans as effectively and left a message. Spoke to her once more on that day.
‘Her telephone rang my telephone and police had been at Emily’s home and she or he was positive and she or he mentioned: “All the pieces’s okay”.
‘She mentioned her canine was not consuming and recommended I come spherical however I did not go to the tackle.’
Mr Hardman mentioned he then acquired a textual content message from Miss Henthorn asking whether or not his spouse would ‘share’ him together with her and added: ‘I did reply.
‘I can not keep in mind what I mentioned but it surely was a ridiculous query to ask. I mentioned I might ring her again I did ring her again however she did not reply.
‘On the Sunday I despatched a lot of messages asking how she was however acquired no response. The following contact I had when her dad phoned me up on the Saturday to say she had died.’
Miss Henthorn’s father Darren mentioned: ‘She was decided, single minded, sturdy willed and at instances controlling however she was very impartial.
‘Emily had been affected by psychological well being points for about 4 to 5 years and her points then introduced her into battle with different folks and family members and people near her. If issues weren’t going her method issues would flare up.
Within the days after the break up, Miss Henthorn (pictured) phoned her sister threatening to take her personal life and police and paramedics had been referred to as to her residence. However no motion was taken after she insisted she was positive
‘Emily was at all times a really non-public individual and would not readily speak about issues as a result of she felt ashamed about it and did not need her household and different folks round her realizing what she was going by.
‘I used to be aware of Emily and Andrew Hardman however I did not know the total particulars. I simply knew that it had ended and I knew that Mr Hardman hadn’t moved in together with her.’
Within the days after the break up, Miss Henthorn phoned her sister threatening to take her personal life and police and paramedics had been referred to as to her residence. However no motion was taken after she insisted she was positive.
Mr Henthorn mentioned: ‘Emily was a really sophisticated individual I do not know myself whether or not threats she made the place for present, sympathy or to get consideration or whether or not she did imply them. Seen as that’s the method she ended her life maybe they the place actual.
‘She at all times mentioned she had a plan the place she needed to be by the point she was 25 and she or he was 25 on the time she died. She by no means mentioned what the plan was however I knew it wasn’t the life she was dwelling – she needed higher issues for herself.
‘At her funeral individuals who the place there had no thought what Emily her household had gone by. She was superb at concealing her underlying issues.’
Mr Hardman (pictured) mentioned he acquired a textual content message from Miss Henthorn asking whether or not his spouse would ‘share’ him together with her
Amy Corrigan, a former girlfriend of Miss Henthorn mentioned: ‘She was very previous headed at 25 in that it is best to have your life sorted and personal a home, married and secure profession. For some motive she set that aim for 25.
‘On Could 1, Emily made contact at 11.32pm and I began texting and phoning her. She mentioned: ‘I’m ending my life tomorrow – if there’s something you wish to say to me, say it now earlier than it is to late.’
‘That is why I rang the emergency companies right away. I attempted to contact her additionally tried to contact Darren and her sister however could not get by. Emily mentioned: ‘There’s loads gone on and I can not do it anymore.’
‘She simply mentioned I wont be capable of perceive what had occurred to her in the previous couple of months after which she put the telephone down.
‘I attempted to ring her again for days however acquired no response. It is when she mentioned: ‘I do not wish to be prevented – I wish to be allowed to finish my life’ which is what scared me essentially the most. She would by no means attain out for assist.’
Leanne Blake, a psychological well being companies nursing practitioner, referred to as Miss Henthorn on Could 2 following a go to from police. Miss Blake mentioned: ‘Emily did not need a referral to psychological well being companies in any respect and I provided to come back into for a nose to nose evaluation that day. She declined all assist and mentioned she was positive’ Coroner Alan Walsh recorded a conclusion of suicide
Leanne Blake a psychological well being companies nursing practitioner referred to as Miss Henthorn on Could 2 following the go to from police.
Miss Blake mentioned: ‘She informed me of a relationship breakdown with a married gentleman. He had left his spouse for her after which modified his thoughts the identical day and gone again. She mentioned she had a way of manipulation to attempt to get the gentleman to stick with her.
‘Emily did not need a referral to psychological well being companies in any respect and I provided to come back into for a nose to nose evaluation that day. She declined all assist and mentioned she was positive.’
Recording a conclusion of suicide, coroner Alan Walsh mentioned: ‘Emily was 25 and had a plan to realize sure targets which sadly in her thoughts hadn’t achieved on the age of 25.
‘She seems to be somebody who had this break up character points. To the surface world she was the centre of consideration, enticing and really out going and when she was in that thoughts she was very enticing and interesting to all those that met her.
‘All those that met her wouldn’t consider what unhappy points these near her skilled. Over the previous couple of few days there had been a breakdown of a relationship and she or he was devastated by that breakdown.
‘She was somebody who was clearly devastated within the dialog she had with Amy and was fairly clear she was intending to finish her life.
‘I do consider that social media and YouTube open up mechanisms of inflicting dying to these which were susceptible.
‘I’m drastically saddened by the actual fact Emily was outgoing, enticing, vivacious character. Saddest that she had that different facet of her character. Along with potential her unfulfilled goal to be achieved by the age of 25 and was not achieved.
‘That got here collectively sadly in that final two weeks of her life induced her to behave in that method and tragically ended her life in that method. That discovering could be unimaginable to all of us within the courtroom.’
You probably have been affected by any of the problems raised on this article then you possibly can name the Samaritans 24 hour helpline on 116 123.